Let’s be real. In today’s dating world, especially within melanated communities, the phrase “building a man” has become common language. You hear it on podcasts, livestreams, barbershops, beauty salons, and definitely in group chats.

In urban culture especially, looks carry weight. Image matters. The person you’re with becomes part of your presentation. It’s not just about connection! It’s about how the two of you look walking into a spot together, how the photos hit on social, how people react when they see you as a couple.

Maybe I'll purchase some cute undies, possibly a new wig, and definitely some silk or satin sheets. I certainly deserve it after working over 60 hours last week for Mark Baiada and only managing about 8 hours for my personal dreams. Ugh, Let me stop before I piss myself off!