I was told by a friend that I was brave. Another person commended me for making an executive decision, knowing there could be a public impact. I felt validated. Someone else told me she would pray for me. But underneath all of that, I feel something bigger happening. I shifted A shift in the way I think. A shift in what I’m willing to accept. A shift that requires me to make some changes if I’m going to feel secure, fulfilled, and genuinely in love with my life. A

Let’s be real. In today’s dating world, especially within melanated communities, the phrase “building a man” has become common language. You hear it on podcasts, livestreams, barbershops, beauty salons, and definitely in group chats.

In urban culture especially, looks carry weight. Image matters. The person you’re with becomes part of your presentation. It’s not just about connection! It’s about how the two of you look walking into a spot together, how the photos hit on social, how people react when they see you as a couple.

Maybe I'll purchase some cute undies, possibly a new wig, and definitely some silk or satin sheets. I certainly deserve it after working over 60 hours last week for Mark Baiada and only managing about 8 hours for my personal dreams. Ugh, Let me stop before I piss myself off!